For the past few weeks, I’ve noticed that C. says self-deprecating comments about herself. When I notice it, I would tell her there is no need to put herself down.
In the dictionary “self-deprecating” is defined as “belittling or undervaluing oneself; excessively modest”.
It’s ok to be modest, but not at the expense of one’s self worth. I am known to be the same way. Often telling people I am an underachiever, even though I went to one of the best high school and universities. I am often put on the most challenging projects at work and often called on to solve the difficult problems.
I will work on not being self-deprecating toward myself and help C. to also recognize it when she does this to herself. I will still be modest, but not undervalue myself. The easiest way to do that is to ask oneself whether we would say the same thing to someone we love. Be kind to ourselves, that is my message.