C: Will I hate you when I’m a teenager?

The original post was in 2005, when C. was 5 years old.

A few days ago, C asked “Dad, will I hate you as a teenager?”

I was a bit caught off guard.  I told C that it’s possible that when kids grow into their teenage years, their hormones could change, and they will be testing the boundaries of being independence. There will be a lot more conflicts between the parent and child.

However, if we continue to communicate, if I spend quality time with her and we genuinely enjoy each other’s company, I don’t see why it has to be the case that my teenage daughter will hate me.

I did tell her that she might be embarrassed by me since I am very geeky and uncool. This she did laugh at, and agreed.

Tony Tam

Senior Principal Architect @ Splunk Founder of ImpactfulEngineer.org & SFBadminton.org