cate, parenting

Talk About Your Frustrations

Dear future self: Today, you were frustrated at your teenage daughter that she was 10 minutes later in leaving the house for high school. Even though she is the only one affected, you felt that it reflected on your personal value to be early or on time. You expressed to your daughter that you were […]

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cate, parenting

C: Will I hate you when I’m a teenager?

The original post was in 2005, when C. was 5 years old. A few days ago, C asked “Dad, will I hate you as a teenager?” I was a bit caught off guard.  I told C that it’s possible that when kids grow into their teenage years, their hormones could change, and they will be testing the […]

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cate, parenting

30 Minutes Of Focus Time For Children And Adults

I spent Christmas night and the day after Christmas with my parents and my sister’s 2 kids. A 2 year old girl “C”. and 4 year old boy “M”. We all spent the morning filled with sounds of the TV and the new Nintendo games the kids got for Christmas. Thirty minutes before we are […]

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cate, food, parenting

Pink Lady Apple Popsicles (archive 2007)

Cate loves loves ice cream. In order to balance her craving against the saturated fats of ice cream, I make her popsicles out of strawberries, raspberries and apples. Her favorite is lady pink apple ones. 1) Take 6 lady pinks, wash and juice them 2) Take a cheese cloth and filter the juice 3 times […]

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cate, parenting, travel

Paris Trip Day 4 : Compromises (2008)

I’m usually not good at resolving conflicts. In the dating environment, I would just run away. At work, we’ll try to figure out the ‘right’ way and usually the ‘right’ way wins. With Cate, usually the only way that wins is to compromise Last night I was trying to convince Cate to fall asleep sooner […]

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cate, coffee, parenting

No coffee for you Dad !!!

Kate and I got into an argument Monday morning, I think it was about wearing clothes or maybe I was slow in getting up in the morning. She wrote me a note “No Coffee For You Dad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” I asked her why I don’t get any coffee and she said K : “Because when you are […]

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cate, Cate's Musings, parenting, paris

Emergency: Don’t Touch The Hair

We were eating crepes and the waitress came over and ruffled Kate’s hair as a sign of affection.  Kate hates it when people touch her hair, so she drew this picture to give to the waitress. “Emergency when someone messed with her hair”.  Sometimes I feel like I’m living with a mute child :)

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cate, parenting

How To Talk About Death To Your Children (2006)

Cate has been watching Cinderella and other Disney movies which mention the subject of death of a family member. So she has been mentioning that subject to me. Does everyone die? Kids who are 5 years old don’t die for a long long time right? What does it mean to die? Dad, when are you […]

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cate, parenting

Cate: nap time

The only reason why I like driving on weekends, Kate gets a much needed nap. Heading into the city for some food at the Ferry Building, then kite flying at Crissy Fields, then watch a dance performance with Kate, my mom and sister in oakland. I’m getting a much needed tan sitting in traffic with […]

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