fatherhood, parenting

My advice to you, dear daugther

Dear daughter, For your 18th birthday, and on my 48th year, I wish to write down something for you to refer back to in the next 30 years. I wish to tell you a few simple thoughts to help you to build a life for yourself that 30 years later, you would look back and […]

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fatherhood, parenting

Identity as a father

For the last 18 years, my identity is primarily a father and a software engineer.  My daughter is going to be 18 years old in a few days and I wanted to remind myself that a large part of my identity is not lost, but changed. In order for her to be a fully formed […]

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fatherhood, parenting

Saying It Out Loud

This week I learned something new about myself.    I learned that what I’m thinking in my head,  when not explicitly told to those I love,  is not necessarily known to those love ones. This seems like a very obviously point,  but I often make this mistake.   I think this could be that I […]

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badminton, fatherhood, parenting

dreaming of father+daughter team

I have this fantasy of playing badminton with C. as a mixed doubles team. The C.+Tony dynamic duo! She is 12 years old, flying at the birdie in front of the net. Father Tony jumping and smashing from the back. We are both enjoying executing what we’ve been training to do during our weekly badminton training […]

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fatherhood, parenting

Father’s day at Santa Cruz

Father’s day turned out be to more than just Kate and Me at the Broadwalk.  My entire family came along and I’m glad they did.   My bro-in law rented a van and the 6 of us hopped in and off we went.  We got there at 9:45 and Kate and headed immediately to the beach, […]

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