cate, parenting

Talk About Your Frustrations

Dear future self: Today, you were frustrated at your teenage daughter that she was 10 minutes later in leaving the house for high school. Even though she is the only one affected, you felt that it reflected on your personal value to be early or on time. You expressed to your daughter that you were […]

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fatherhood, parenting

Saying It Out Loud

This week I learned something new about myself.    I learned that what I’m thinking in my head,  when not explicitly told to those I love,  is not necessarily known to those love ones. This seems like a very obviously point,  but I often make this mistake.   I think this could be that I […]

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cate, parenting

C: Will I hate you when I’m a teenager?

The original post was in 2005, when C. was 5 years old. A few days ago, C asked “Dad, will I hate you as a teenager?” I was a bit caught off guard.  I told C that it’s possible that when kids grow into their teenage years, their hormones could change, and they will be testing the […]

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cate, parenting

30 Minutes Of Focus Time For Children And Adults

I spent Christmas night and the day after Christmas with my parents and my sister’s 2 kids. A 2 year old girl “C”. and 4 year old boy “M”. We all spent the morning filled with sounds of the TV and the new Nintendo games the kids got for Christmas. Thirty minutes before we are […]

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badminton, fatherhood, parenting

dreaming of father+daughter team

I have this fantasy of playing badminton with C. as a mixed doubles team. The C.+Tony dynamic duo! She is 12 years old, flying at the birdie in front of the net. Father Tony jumping and smashing from the back. We are both enjoying executing what we’ve been training to do during our weekly badminton training […]

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cate, coffee, parenting

No coffee for you Dad !!!

Kate and I got into an argument Monday morning, I think it was about wearing clothes or maybe I was slow in getting up in the morning. She wrote me a note “No Coffee For You Dad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” I asked her why I don’t get any coffee and she said K : “Because when you are […]

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parenting

Kate’s sunday conversations

Some random bits of conversation between Kate and me K: “Dad, are you going to die before me?” me: “uhhh, I think so.” K: “but not for a long long long long time right?” me: “I hope so.” K: “Dad, even when you are angry, you still love me right?” me: “I’ll always love you” […]

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cate, Cate's Musings, parenting, paris

Emergency: Don’t Touch The Hair

We were eating crepes and the waitress came over and ruffled Kate’s hair as a sign of affection.  Kate hates it when people touch her hair, so she drew this picture to give to the waitress. “Emergency when someone messed with her hair”.  Sometimes I feel like I’m living with a mute child :)

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parenting

The Good And The So So

Kate arrived yesterday, her mom brought her over to Paris while traveling towards eastern Europe.  Kate was excited as was I to be reunited after a month. The good. We spent the day visiting a few food places around Rue Lepic, and I was introducing Kate to the vendors. The good The vendor selling tarts […]

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parenting

video: Cate Dancing In A Parade

Kate is coming to visit me for 2 weeks in Paris. This will be her 3rd time in Paris, hopefully we’ll get to chill and soak up summertime in Paris my silly Kate last summer dancing to a her own parade.  I’m actually getting a bit nervous, I haven’t seen her for 6 weeks now. […]

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parenting

Does Parenthood Make You Happy?

I’ve been listening to an audio book, Stumbling on Happiness The author Daniel Gilbert is really funny and convincing in the thoroughness of his research.  He believes that humans are the only animals who can think about the future and have an imagination. I still do not know the secret to happiness, but after listening […]

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parenting

Dance performance this Sunday

I have been taking Kate to her dance lessons ever since she was 2 1/2.  When she first started, she refused to participate and we spend nearly 2 months just sitting and watching. How time has flown.  She was in a dance performance 2 years before and she frozed on stage.  She skipped last year’s […]

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cate, parenting

Cate: nap time

The only reason why I like driving on weekends, Kate gets a much needed nap. Heading into the city for some food at the Ferry Building, then kite flying at Crissy Fields, then watch a dance performance with Kate, my mom and sister in oakland. I’m getting a much needed tan sitting in traffic with […]

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parenting

Kate: the first year: Elimination/potty training

Kate is 4 years old now, I’m ready to finally share with the world about how Angie and I decided to raise her.  Our choices and methods are extreme and it caused us a lot of isolation with other parents, but it was all worth it. When Kate was 3 month old, Angie and I […]

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parenting

How to discipline a 4 year old

We are traveling in Paris with kate, my 4 year old daughter, I need some advice. 1) She likes to ask ‘why’ endlessly I can’t get a moment of peace. And she would either ask the same ‘why’ question to something I’ve already answer or she would follow an answer with another ‘why’ 2) She […]

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