cate, parenting

Talk About Your Frustrations

Dear future self: Today, you were frustrated at your teenage daughter that she was 10 minutes later in leaving the house for high school. Even though she is the only one affected, you felt that it reflected on your personal value to be early or on time. You expressed to your daughter that you were […]

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fatherhood, parenting

Saying It Out Loud

This week I learned something new about myself.    I learned that what I’m thinking in my head,  when not explicitly told to those I love,  is not necessarily known to those love ones. This seems like a very obviously point,  but I often make this mistake.   I think this could be that I […]

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inspiration, parenting

My daughter the writer

My daughter is taking up writing and publishing her stories publicly on WattPad.  Her current series is based on the seven sins and she is trying to take on seven different writing styles. Give it a try and support her efforts in putting her writing out there :)  You will have to sign up for […]

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parenting

“Pink” College

(old post from 2007) Kate loves watching Blue’s Clues and especially one episode, “Steve goes to college”. So tonight, instead of reading she wanting me to tell her all about college. I used this perfect timing to tell her about learning and doing well in school. Kate: “Is there a pink college? I want to […]

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cate, parenting

C: Will I hate you when I’m a teenager?

The original post was in 2005, when C. was 5 years old. A few days ago, C asked “Dad, will I hate you as a teenager?” I was a bit caught off guard.  I told C that it’s possible that when kids grow into their teenage years, their hormones could change, and they will be testing the […]

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parenting

Whether to use parental control for a 10 year old

My daughter has her own laptop and for a while, I’ve told her that she can use up to 30 minutes of screen time on her laptop, my iPad or any electronic devices. Recently while chatting with a family friend, he mentioned that he believes we should embrace technology in schools and if used properly […]

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inspiration, parenting

I Believe In Consistency And Persistence

Many aspects of my life are based on 2 simple concepts: consistency and persistence. I have been working for Yahoo! as a software engineer for over 11 years now.  I have consistently delivered  results regardless of what project I work on.   My co-workers and management can trust me with the most important projects.  Without fail, […]

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cate, parenting

30 Minutes Of Focus Time For Children And Adults

I spent Christmas night and the day after Christmas with my parents and my sister’s 2 kids. A 2 year old girl “C”. and 4 year old boy “M”. We all spent the morning filled with sounds of the TV and the new Nintendo games the kids got for Christmas. Thirty minutes before we are […]

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parenting

5 Positive Stories I Read To C. On Christmas

I loved these 5 stories from the Chronicle this morning and I read them to C. for her bedtime reading Castro garage draws out Christmas wishes Yiying Lu makes splash with Twitter’s ‘fail whale’ Bad college grades a tough record to shake Devoted single father grateful for new apartment Dear San Francisco: What I like about […]

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parenting

Paris 2011, 10th Trip For C.

C. is truly a blessed child. I have been taking C. to Paris once a year in order for both of us to spend some quality time together during her vacation. Also I want her to have a special place that I consistently bring her to so that when she grows up, it will be a special […]

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cate, food, parenting

Pink Lady Apple Popsicles (archive 2007)

Cate loves loves ice cream. In order to balance her craving against the saturated fats of ice cream, I make her popsicles out of strawberries, raspberries and apples. Her favorite is lady pink apple ones. 1) Take 6 lady pinks, wash and juice them 2) Take a cheese cloth and filter the juice 3 times […]

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inspiration, parenting

Happy Mother’s Day : Day With My Mom

This year for mother’s day, I thought I would just spend a full day with her alone (the day before the actual day). No other family members, just mom and son. I hadn’t made any special plans ahead so in morning, I booked a ZipCar just in case we needed it, and walked 20 minutes to […]

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cate, parenting, travel

Paris Trip Day 4 : Compromises (2008)

I’m usually not good at resolving conflicts. In the dating environment, I would just run away. At work, we’ll try to figure out the ‘right’ way and usually the ‘right’ way wins. With Cate, usually the only way that wins is to compromise Last night I was trying to convince Cate to fall asleep sooner […]

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food, parenting

homemade pizza : first attempt a success

C. wants to cook more with her Dad for 2008 New Year’s resolution First attempt at making pizza dough at home. Pretty simple recipe. 10 minutes of working the dough for both C. and I. let it rise for 1 hour. Pop it into the oven for 10 minutes. She gets cheese pizza, I get spicy sausage. […]

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badminton, fatherhood, parenting

dreaming of father+daughter team

I have this fantasy of playing badminton with C. as a mixed doubles team. The C.+Tony dynamic duo! She is 12 years old, flying at the birdie in front of the net. Father Tony jumping and smashing from the back. We are both enjoying executing what we’ve been training to do during our weekly badminton training […]

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parenting

Cute Kids Becoming Non-Cute Adults

You see it everywhere. People smiling a kids, commenting on how cute they are. I do the same thing on the metro here in Paris. Even when I look at Kate, I sometimes can’t help but smile at her. I imagine what will become of this wonderful human being. When do kids stop being cute […]

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Happy 6th birthday my Kate

Kate turned 6 today. Happy birthday my little girl. It’s so wonderful to have you in my life. Having a child has taught me to look at life with a fresh pair of eyes. To look at life in a positive angle. She shows her feelings and her love without reservation and this is still […]

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parenting

Prayer Of Love

Recently I started asking Kate if she would like to say a nightly prayer of love. I told her it’s when we just say thanks for our health and our good fortune and then we pray for health and happiness for everyone we love. This way it will magically keep the people we love healthy […]

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Kate: “I want to be rich”

(photo is Kate’s. Happy Chinese New Years on the right bubble, “Dad” 爸 on the left red envelope, “Maternal grandfather” 公 on the right red envelope, the rest of the yellow I think are currencies?) I can’t recall how the conversation started, but I asked what Kate wants to be when she grew up. She […]

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food, parenting

Chinese Dumpling Sunday

I had a craving for fresh Chinese dumplings on Friday and got my parents to pick up the ingredients from Chinatown. Friday my gf and I made a small batch enough to satisfy ourselves. Then this Sunday Kate and I finished up the entire batch. It really did hit the spot. Here is a recipe […]

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parenting

close to the heart

In Chinese we have a term 貼心 which literally translates to “close to the heart” and it’s usually used to describe daughters who are very close to their parents and especially their mothers. Ever since my foot injury, Kate has needed to make huge adjustments. Opening and holding doors for me, bringing her dinners to […]

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cate, coffee, parenting

No coffee for you Dad !!!

Kate and I got into an argument Monday morning, I think it was about wearing clothes or maybe I was slow in getting up in the morning. She wrote me a note “No Coffee For You Dad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” I asked her why I don’t get any coffee and she said K : “Because when you are […]

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parenting

Kate’s sunday conversations

Some random bits of conversation between Kate and me K: “Dad, are you going to die before me?” me: “uhhh, I think so.” K: “but not for a long long long long time right?” me: “I hope so.” K: “Dad, even when you are angry, you still love me right?” me: “I’ll always love you” […]

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Kate: I’m not a princess!

Me: (as I lay cushion for her on the chair) You are my little princess. Kate: I’m not a princess, I don’t have a prince yet! It’s just you, dad. Me: chuckle.. That is very true, that almost makes perfect sense I love your logic Kate Kate: Why is that funny, Dad? Me: I just […]

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food, parenting

Crepes for only those you really love

I make crepes for Kate in the mornings whenever she asks.  It usually takes me about 15 minutes or so to get some fresh hot nutella crepes in her hands.    I usually make then without any butter as I’m a oil/fat freak. Today I read an article on crepes on KQED Food Blog and I […]

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inspiration, parenting

Passionate About Anything

It doesn’t matter what you are passionate about, as long as you have the passion in your eyes and your heart.   For many years in my life, I was passionless.    If I had a weekend free, I would not know what to do with that time. My recent passion is all about latte art, good […]

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parenting

“King of Boring”

C. wanted to play with me this morning while she was sick at home. And when I said I needed to work, she came up with a bunch of choice words for me. 1. King of boring 2. King of making fun of me 3. King of making my wish not complete The girl can express […]

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parenting

C.’s PTA meeting

  Today I met with C’s French teachers.  Some cool highlights Kate is the leader in the advance French group Kate is well liked by all her classmates Kate is like a flower while the others are bees around her.  She doesn’t seek out friends, others seek her out She was very shy before, but she […]

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parenting

Kate’s PTA Meeting

Today I met with Kate’s French teachers.  Some cool highlights Kate is the leader in the advance French group Kate is well liked by all her classmates Kate is like a flower while the others are bees around her.  She doesn’t seek out friends, others seek her out She was very shy before, but she […]

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parenting

Story Of 2 Girls

C. decided that she liked the name ‘K.’ and she wants her alias to be ‘clara’  so we actually changed her name officially in school to ‘C.’.  She had me write out this story for her and she supplied the drawings  and the words.

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parenting

Time With Mom

Weekend with mom was very fun, my mom just turned 65 this year. Pick her up from SF and drove to Oakland to have a facial together.  Had a very nice nap. Mom: “my friends would like to go to Europe next year.. pause” Me: “Do you guys enjoy tour packages?” Mom: “No we hate […]

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I Should Have 10 More Kate’s

I dropped off Kate at school and her teacher came up and we chatted a bit. She was telling me that Kate is expressing herself well in French and she wanted to find out how ‘deep’ Kate’s vocabulary was.  Since I don’t know French, I couldn’t tell her :-)  But I’m sure it’s good enough. […]

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parenting

Keeping entertained during a flight

The flight back from Paris with Kate was very pleasant and we both looked forward to the end of the 2 week vacation.  We came up with a few games to keep us entertained.  The most fun one was a made up game of ask the 8-ball I wrote up 3 pieces of paper with […]

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parenting, travel

single dad traveling with a kid in Paris

Eiffel Tower, Seine River, Louvre Museum: from  5 year old’s perpective, she can care less. Where’s the ice cream place, crepes? tired of walking, not the metro again, are we there yet? Kate is a pretty good traveler, but thinking from her perspective, I can understand. My days with her here in Paris is not […]

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parenting

Warning

warning Dad! Apparently Kate has learned the meaning of warning from one of the poems in Where the Sidewalk Ends.  Then she saw the warning signs about not putting your fingers between the doors in the Paris metro. The entire week, I’m getting warning drawings as I deny her a 2nd helping of ice cream.  […]

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cate, Cate's Musings, parenting, paris

Emergency: Don’t Touch The Hair

We were eating crepes and the waitress came over and ruffled Kate’s hair as a sign of affection.  Kate hates it when people touch her hair, so she drew this picture to give to the waitress. “Emergency when someone messed with her hair”.  Sometimes I feel like I’m living with a mute child :)

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The Good And The So So

Kate arrived yesterday, her mom brought her over to Paris while traveling towards eastern Europe.  Kate was excited as was I to be reunited after a month. The good. We spent the day visiting a few food places around Rue Lepic, and I was introducing Kate to the vendors. The good The vendor selling tarts […]

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Video: Kate Dancing In A Parade

Kate is coming to visit me for 2 weeks in Paris. This will be her 3rd time in Paris, hopefully we’ll get to chill and soak up summertime in Paris my silly Kate last summer dancing to a her own parade.  I’m actually getting a bit nervous, I haven’t seen her for 6 weeks now. […]

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video: Cate Dancing In A Parade

Kate is coming to visit me for 2 weeks in Paris. This will be her 3rd time in Paris, hopefully we’ll get to chill and soak up summertime in Paris my silly Kate last summer dancing to a her own parade.  I’m actually getting a bit nervous, I haven’t seen her for 6 weeks now. […]

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video: kate singing coccinelle

Kate is a very lucky girl indee in her exposure to different languages, especially in a country like the US where we are very mono-language focused.  It’s rare for a child to grow up being able to speak another language like a native She grew up with Chinese-mandarin as her first language because we didn’t […]

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Video: Kate 2005: water tension experiment

I’m beginning to seriously miss Kate, so I’m revisiting her videos on my little 17″ powerbook. Everyone loves the San Francisco Exploratorium. There are hundreds of science experiments here. Kate’s favorite the first time she was there is this “water surface tension” experiment. You try to make as much water stay on top and not […]

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Video: Kate: why I don’t want to play with this boy?

Ok, I’m easily amused by my daughter. But when we speak Chinese, it’s even funnier (at least to me). One day I asked her why she won’t play with this boy at school, here is our conversation while she was making crepes highlight here to the end for the transcript: Kate: Because his voice is […]

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parenting

Does Parenthood Make You Happy?

I’ve been listening to an audio book, Stumbling on Happiness The author Daniel Gilbert is really funny and convincing in the thoroughness of his research.  He believes that humans are the only animals who can think about the future and have an imagination. I still do not know the secret to happiness, but after listening […]

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parenting

Say Good Bye To Castro Valley House

I’m moving out of the house I bought and lived in for over 12 years.  It’s been through 2-3 remodels but until recently it’s been the perfect house for me.  Life of course always change and I want and need to live in San Francisco now. So it’s good bye to suburb living and hello […]

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inspiration, kids programming, parenting

Memories

For all the moms and dads out there, really take the time to enjoy the first 5 years of your child’s life.  After they start school and learn how to reason with you, the relationship becomes very different.  I miss the days when Kate didn’t question anything.  I enjoy her current age, but I often […]

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food, parenting

Easy answer to : What’s for dinner?

It’s been the same answer for the past few weeks. She wants fresh pasta, she helps make it. Gather the ingredient, stir in water, break the eggs, measure the flour, mix, help roll the dough, cut into fettuccine or pappardelle, cook the pasta, wash the basil, mix with olive oil, add salt. I’m just the […]

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parenting

Yes Kate, No Dad

Kate got mad at me for some reason and went back to her table to write me a warning note. She first said I was in trouble :-( “From Kate For Tony” “Yes Kate, No Dad” “I am getting mad at you”

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Love from Kate

Kate: Do you know who I love the most? Tony: Mom? K: nope T: Me? K: nope T: grandmom? Grandpa? Autie Liana? Your best friend Olivia? You sister Lauren? K: nope, nope. I love all my family the same. This way no one would feel sad. It’s Kate’s 5th birthday this week., how she has […]

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cate, parenting

How To Talk About Death To Your Children (2006)

Cate has been watching Cinderella and other Disney movies which mention the subject of death of a family member. So she has been mentioning that subject to me. Does everyone die? Kids who are 5 years old don’t die for a long long time right? What does it mean to die? Dad, when are you […]

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Dance performance this Sunday

I have been taking Kate to her dance lessons ever since she was 2 1/2.  When she first started, she refused to participate and we spend nearly 2 months just sitting and watching. How time has flown.  She was in a dance performance 2 years before and she frozed on stage.  She skipped last year’s […]

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Non Non Pas Moi

Kate’s drawing of me and her, after she translated my shirt from Paris . I had a big laugh when she wanted to write down what was on my shirt.

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Cate and Haircut

Getting a haircut with Kate is one of the more enjoyable moments. I usually wait too long before I take her, and she seems to enjoy herself there. Afterwards, she usually look very spiffy and then I get to give her a bath to wash out the hair, another one of my favorite things to […]

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Saturday Food Day

Kate and I had a day full of good food. Fresh fettuccini pasta, french string beans, basil Chocolate fondue with organic fuji apple slices fresh lemon scones with all 7 color sprinkles Every color sprinkle is put on top of the scone for good measure Kate, the cook, trying out the chocolate Melting Dark Chocolate […]

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parenting

Kate & Me

It’s been a while, Kate finally agreed to take a photo with me for my birthday .  She still refused to be photographed.

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“Stop Taking Pictures Dad!”

My little girl is going through a phase where she doesn’t want her picture to be taken anymore.  So sad for the paparazzi dad.  I end up sneaking photos when she is not watching, but I can only do that on my Treo when I pretent I’m just checking email. I hope she gets out […]

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“Stop Taking Pictures Dad!”

My little girl is going through a phase where she doesn’t want her picture to be taken anymore.  So sad for the paparazzi dad.  I end up sneaking photos when she is not watching, but I can only do that on my Treo when I pretent I’m just checking email. I hope she gets out […]

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food, parenting

Crepe Saturday With Kate

Just wanted to document my very long but leisurely day with my little girl so I don’t forget. Saturday morning started at 6:30 when Kate bounced up and asked me whether she could make crepes.  Of course, I love crepes.  She ran into the kitchen and got all the ingredients ready.  She measured the flour, […]

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parenting

Lice! Lice!

Just got this email from Kate’s school, it doesn’t sound like the next few weeks will be fun. Time to give Kate a good scrub down just in case. Unfortunately, there have been some lice found in MK so we’re asking everyone to please stay aware so we can minimize any spreading. If you’re not […]

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A Constant Force In Kate’s Life

I usually drive Kate to school on the day I work from home.  But this last time I was late by 10 minutes. I had to fill out a little tardy slip for Kate with the reason of ‘traffic’ as an excuse. I strolled leisurely to class with Kate and as I stepped in, 5 […]

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A Constant Force In Kate’s Life

I usually drive Kate to school on the day I work from home.  But this last time I was late by 10 minutes. I had to fill out a little tardy slip for Kate with the reason of ‘traffic’ as an excuse. I strolled leisurely to class with Kate and as I stepped in, 5 […]

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parenting

Children Book Review: Grace Lin

Kate since she was a baby, we’ve come across many books that she loves. I thought I’ll start sharing those. I would love to hear suggestions as well from other parents on what books they love. Anywhere from 0-6 years old reading material. Grace Lin illustrated many books on the Chinese culture.  It’s really fun […]

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parenting

First Discovery Book series: Great Designed Books?

The “First Discovery Books” are the best designed children’s books I’ve ever seen. These books are very hard to find brand new in the US.  I’m not sure why. Do a search on Amazon and give all the books a try.  These are very detailed illustrations of various topics like The Egg , Penguins, Weather, […]

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parenting

Kate’s Back In School

Kate doesn’t like paparazzi Dad I finally figured out the immunization stuff for Kate, she is back in school and her teachers love her! She is speaking French to her teachers, doodling, playing with the seesaw, eating lunch with her classmates, pretending to nap, and building sand castles.

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Cate’s Love

  Sweetest moments while putting Kate down for bed K: Dad, I love you more than the moon, the sun, the house, the curtain, the ball, the wall. K: How much do you love me? me: No matter how much you love me, I love you more. K: I love you 10 billion billion.  I […]

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Kate I Let You Down :-(

Kate’s teachers tell me that it so nice having Kate at school, she is really happy there. Today Yahoo! let some of us leave work at 2:00pm to get started on the long weekend.  So I decided to pick up Kate from Berkeley and take her to get her shots so she won’t be kicked […]

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Kate’s first day of school

Happy parents, happy kids, crying kids whose parents left too fast, socializing with teachers, proud parents, excited Kate. The first day school for Kate, I’m so proud of her. She will enjoy learning at the French American school so much. But I think she will love the corn meal sandbox the most

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Top 5 memories of Kate before she heads to school

Kate’s going to school next week, sniff.. now on to the memories She loves listening to Jack Johnson’s Sexy Plexy when she falls asleep, I would have it on for her to calm her down.  When I was in Paris with her, we listened to that before she fell asleep.  That one song always brings me […]

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my 4 year old is smarter than I am

4 year old Kate is way smarter than I am She spots every little detail in her story books, facial expressions of all the characters in the page She remembers that there are 6 strings on the guitar without looking at it, I thought there were 7 She learns foreign languages so much better than […]

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my 4 year old is smarter than I am

4 year old Cate is way smarter than I am She spots every little detail in her story books, facial expressions of all the characters in the page She remembers that there are 6 strings on the guitar without looking at it, I thought there were 7 She learns foreign languages so much better than […]

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cate, parenting

Cate: nap time

The only reason why I like driving on weekends, Kate gets a much needed nap. Heading into the city for some food at the Ferry Building, then kite flying at Crissy Fields, then watch a dance performance with Kate, my mom and sister in oakland. I’m getting a much needed tan sitting in traffic with […]

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Cate and ice cream

This kid is hooked. She doesn’t get ice cream when she is with me. But when my sister, Liana is with us, somehow cate usually works in ice cream after a nice meal with veggies. Here is us enjoying a nice break from the heat at the local Loard’s ice cream parlor

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Fun Math Game To Play Anywhere

Neat game to teach addition and subtraction We agree on difference of 2. Kate: (hides a certain number of fingers) Me: It’s less than how many fingers? Kate: 6 Me: you’ve got 4 fingers! Kate: yup Me: ( I hide my fingers ) Kate: It’s more than how many fingers? Me: 7 Kate: You’ve got […]

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Let’s cook Mr. Potato Head!

Kate: “Do you want yams?” Me: huh? Kate: Let’s cook Mr. Potato Head! Me: He is a potato, we can make mash potatoes. But something is weird with this, Kate. Cooking a toy that is suppose to be sort of alive.. Uhhh, let’s do somthing else. Kate: It’s ok dad, he is only a toy. […]

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Saturday at the SF Ferry with Kate

I love Saturdays at the SF Ferry Building, afterwards, we hit the farmer’s market in Castro Valley for some live electric guitar. Food, coffee, flowers, live music, suntan, people :-) Life is good on Saturdays. Kate enjoying a piece of bread from The Acme Bread Company while running circles around me Kate and I take  […]

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